Reticent Man

I'm thinking of two types of happiness (and also corresponding negative feelings).  That which comes from phsycial sensations and passionless mental sensations will always be less intense.  Both the positive and negative feelings that come from passion will always be the strongest in life.

I can think of two main categories of things for a man to be passionate about.  One is a pursuit, or work towards achievement.  The other is love for other people (women, children).

Now let's turn to Alpha males.  It is easy to think about an alpha male being passionate about a pursuit of achievement and gaining happiness through it.  But what about love?  It seems on the surface at least that loving a woman is a beta act.  It is the great paradox that the beta truly loves and appreciates the company of the good woman, but directly repels her.  While the alpha attracts her, but gains a much smaller reward.


I must at this time point out that the Bill Clinton alpha type who might honestly say he loves the many women he's with does not count.  That is a different version of love than the one I'm talking about. 

Is this really the way it must be?  Can an alpha not love?  Perhaps men who don't or can't love a woman just end up being alpha because it's so much easier for them.  And maybe a man can love a woman and be alpha, but only by never truly letting her know how much he loves her.  But then how does he carry out some of the power plays on her that demonstrate his alpha-ness he if loves her?  Possibly it comes naturally to most to be temporarily upset at the ones you love, but it does not to me. 

But even as I'm writing this and thinking about it I can now visualize how it works, even for me. You can passionately love the woman without ever beta-ing.

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